The next thing to say about family and family psychology is trust. Do I need to tell you that it must be present in the family, that without people’s trust in each other, there will be no good family? My experience tells me that this should not only be discussed, but also constantly repeated, so that people who have a family or are planning to start one, try to do everything in their power to establish the most trusting relationship with their partner. It would seem, well, what kind of appeal is this, because if people want to create a good family, they already understand it perfectly, and those who do not care what they create, they do not care about trust at all. However, as I have often noticed, many people do not fully understand what trust between people should be and what it is based on. They seem to want to trust and want to be trusted, but they behave in such a way that their actions destroy any partner’s trust in themselves, and their trust in the partner. After all, even a small, but very painful lie can undermine a person’s trust for a very long time. And Vice versa-if you unreasonably do not trust your partner, suspect him of everything and constantly check – you thereby demonstrate your unfriendly attitude to him. You yourself give your partner a reason to deceive you by not trusting them unreasonably. Because people become what we see in them.
This does not mean that you need to recklessly trust your other half, but your distrust, first, should not be demonstrative, and secondly, it should be based on irrefutable evidence, and not on any kind of speculation. How many families have suffered just because one of the spouses had a not quite healthy imagination, because of which he saw deception everywhere and in everything. So you need to be careful with this, because no one likes to be accused of something unfairly and unfairly. And of course, you need to monitor your own actions so as not to undermine your confidence. After all, how often have I had to deal with people who wanted their husband or their wife to trust them, when many of their actions seriously undermined this very trust. People, of course, are different, some have a short memory, others have a long one, and others, as they say, are completely vindictive, so everyone has a different attitude to the treacherous actions of other people, especially those close to them. But still, most of us – resentment and betrayal remember for a very long time. That is why they say that it is very difficult to win the trust of people – it takes years. But you can lose it in an instant. So trust in the family plays a very important role. And not only in the family, but in life in General.