Relationship between spouses
Also in the field of family psychology falls such an area of knowledge as the relationship between spouses. In fact, some of the things I have already described – conflicts, responsibility, and trust-are part of this relationship. But not only that. It is important to understand that the relationship between spouses is a special form of relationship. And the main feature of these relationships is that married people have certain obligations to each other. There are relationships without obligations, they have their pros and cons, but mostly, when we talk about family relationships, it is a relationship with obligations. But these obligations, you see, should not so much be stipulated by law and set out on paper, as they should be in the minds of people who should voluntarily take them on. I think it is wrong to involve the state in your family relations in order to resolve your issues with your husband or wife using laws, i.e. legitimate violence. Although it is often necessary, because people sometimes even make marriage contracts, because they are not sure of each other. I, however, believe that without voluntarily taking on certain obligations, no laws will prevent a person from harming their second half, their family. After all, any laws can be circumvented. So you either want to bear certain obligations to your spouse, your spouse and your family, or maybe you don’t need a family as such at all, and you shouldn’t torment yourself and other people by entering into a legal marriage.
People, of course, agree to live with each other on different terms and the family may not be the same as we are used to seeing it. But nevertheless, a family is a family and the people in it are not strangers to each other. Therefore, they still need to bear some obligations to each other, and on a voluntary basis, which means that they need to respect and appreciate each other, and preferably also love each other.
In addition, there is another interesting point in the relationship between spouses – this is their use of each other. Which in General, complements the above. I think that it will not surprise anyone to say that some people have a so-called consumer attitude towards their husbands and wives, and they look at them not so much as people, but as a source of some benefits or as a means to achieve certain goals. We are not even talking about a marriage of convenience, because the calculation can be different, including quite noble, not at all contrary to such a feeling as love, we are talking about a type of people who see their husbands and wives as just another thing they need, their property, which they believe they have the right to dispose of as they please. I think you too, if not experienced this personally, then at least heard about a relationship where the wife or husband is a thing, a kind of toy, or a husband for his wife nothing more than a thing, so to speak, henpecked or just the breadwinner.
Here I would like to warn some of you, dear readers, that such extremely unequal relationships between spouses do not usually make people happy. Moreover, such relations are harmful not only for the exploited person, but also often for the exploiter, because violence against people significantly worsens them, it kills their personality. With such husbands and wives who have been turned into a thing, there can be a lot of problems. So, my advice to you-look for, create an equal relationship with another person with whom you plan to create a family – this is the best option. This is, of course, a good option if you are interested in normal, standard family relationships, with all their pros and cons, and not something else.